Today I encountered something I find to be very interesting. A friend I grew up with posted a status on Facebook about the Victoria Beckham Collection that launched Sunday April 9th at Target. She was joking and making fun of some of the pieces in the collection. Now, I know people have a right to their opinions and I’m not talking bad about her. I love her. It was just an eye opening moment for me. She spoke of a black and white scalloped skirt as a Beetlejuice creation and of a flowered satin set as a nun suit. There were brightly colored two piece sets and a fun printed bee button up that are seen as an oversized bee shirt and dreamsicle costumes. She took screen shots as well for visual aid. I know her intent was NOT meant to be malicious in any way but it did strike a chord with me.
I was bullied.
When I was young, awkward, and trying to identify my footing, I was also making an attempt to dress myself. Like most children love to do. Ultimately, that’s where I’d say my love for styling clothes and fashion formed. I would arrive at school in full confidence and be bullied – no joke- for the color choice of the socks I had on or the type of shirt I wore. Keep in mind that I was born in the mid 80’s so I was being raised in the 90’s. Where what was known as the 1st round of grunge, jelly shoes and chokers... And I’m young and awkward...emphasize awkward. The selection wasn’t as diverse as it is now. Nor as tailored or consistent. Options for kids were almost nonexistent. So I was ultimately being bullied on what my parents bought for me and hung in my closet. Terrible. Yes, kids are kids but words hurt people and bullying is bullying.
I immediately started a rant in a few comment boxes and revealed that I myself was bullied for wearing clothes I thought were wonderful.
“I like all the designs. They are flattering. The bright colors are great for Spring and Summer. You can mix and match pieces to go with other items in your closet. I see this isn’t your style, but don’t make fun of someone else’s just because it isn’t what you would wear. Fashion is different for everyone. Someone who like the color blocking, bright colors and simple designs (Victoria Beckham Collection at Target) may not like the darker colors and busy, over done prints of another (Lula Roe) All examples. Someone else who loves beach brands like Billabong, Rusty, or Quicksilver may not love others like Alice and Olivia, Oscar de la Renta or Moschino. That doesn’t mean we should make fun of the clothes people choose to wear.’’
Then, I added “I was literally bullied for my clothing choices growing up.” There it was; the truth. My friend after reading my comments encouraged me with a “Preach it Laura!” for my honesty and then she confesses that if she ever did see me wearing the Beetlejuice skirt, she would high five me.
I chose to take that as a challenge and finished with #challengeaccepted. Which has led me here; writing this very blog post you’re now reading.
As someone who adores fashion and includes fashion throughout the day, I was really caught by surprise when she and many others were so close minded to a fabulously styled designer that was coming to a store many of them shop at regularly. They were even calling Culottes – Gauchos… but that’s just my own peeve to deal with though.
I also noticed that many of them didn’t have a strong hold on their fashion sense. There is nothing wrong with that except you limit yourself and you limit your closet.
As an adult, I don’t judge people for their choices in style and fashion. I’ve noticed many that judge others for the very clothes on their backs. We buy clothes to express our unique personalities; to have a voice in the crowd of many. FASHION IS ART, which is EXPRESSION. It’s the best way to say nothing and have a whole conversation at the same time.
Yes, there are clothing pieces I don’t wear but only after I’ve tried it on and realized it’s just not flattering on me. It doesn’t give me the confidence factor I feel I need to have when I’m trying to step outside my comfort zone. Anything you wear should make you feel fabulous. Inside and Out.
The message I’m trying to deliver after all this is NO judgement! We see someone regardless of if it’s a friend, a model or even a sneak peek of a designer’s collection as a point to belittle someone for their clothing??? Seriously??? What happened to embracing the individuality of others? Why are we so quick point out all the things we don’t like? Why is it that we have such a hard time coming up with just as many we actually enjoy?
It makes my day when I go out into the world and another woman wants to compliment me. It’s comradery. To me, that is important. I want to be seen me as approachable and stylish of course. Basically I want people to be able to relate and talk to me.
I believe we should be more inclined to give compliments and encouragement to others than to always find negative things to say. It’s just as easy to give words of encouragement and find the beauty within as it is to spout off words of jealousy, anger, or small mindedness within all of its faults.
At the end of the day, you may not think you are bullying someone by saying something about their clothing negatively, but I was victim to it many times. And you are.
Be kind to others of all ages and on all levels. Remind others to that compliments not insults go further.
It’s time to end bullying.
It’s time to be individuals.
I went with a friend to swipe up whatever remaining pieces of the collection I could after accepting the challenge for the black and white striped scalloped skirt. When we arrived at our local Target we saw the sign for the collection and headed straight for it. No time to waste as others were there just to shop the collection too. I was skimming the racks looking for black and white skirt and ended up finding so many other wonderful pieces while in my pursuit. Fortunately, I was able to snag the “Beetlejuice” skirt in my size. The high five is on!
I finished my search and headed to the dressing room with my finds… in multiple sizes. You never know what size you are and if you don’t grab multiples you might miss out on getting it in your size. Someone else may grab it!
After a little dancing, and shoulder shimmies down the dressing room isle. I found my forevers. I bought multiple pieces from the Victoria Beckham line at Target. The pieces that she created are, to me, priced well considering the quality of the garments is quite impressive.
I bought the skirt and a few other pieces with such excitement to show off my voice in fashion. This is something that I am so happy to share with you and I hope you’re able to go out and purchase your share from the collection as well to help embrace your individuality within yourself! High five!
I love you all.
P.S - I chose to include the other pieces I purchased below in a slide show for you to be inspired even more. Here are a few stylish ideas to keep your fashion juices flowing using pieces from the Victoria Beckham Collection that's now available. Hope you enjoy them as much as I do! #negativityintocreativity #highfivechallenge